Gay sex work in Singapore

My name is Cas,  I’m 20 years old and I once did gay sex work in Singapore.

I started having sex just after my O’s ended mostly because I had quite the bad combination of a late, intense puberty and bad mental issues. So this continued on for a couple of months until I realized two things
1. I was broke
2. I could charge for this

So I started posting ads online, offering services for a fee. I didn’t get many clients, not more than 7 or so because I was new, and I wasn’t conventionally attractive. I probably only got clients because I didn’t charge much, like only around 10-20 dollars but I did unprotected oral if they paid more.*

*I’m an idiot. Fight me

One day, I received a different request. This guy wanted a kinky role play session, sorta like an S&M thing. And it was fun, and it introduced me to concepts and acts that I had never heard of before. Pleasure and pain, that kind of thing. And it made me feel much so better about myself. He paid me quite a bit too, like 500 dollars, which is the highest I’ve ever been paid (probably cause he was the first in my butt)

Naturally, I wanted more, so I started offering kink services, like “I’ll do anything for cash, pm me your filthiest fantasies”.

I started getting many more replies then, and people offered quite a bit, even though I wasn’t conventionally attractive. Some clients wanted some rather extreme stuff, including:
1. A 3 hour long edging session ($200)
2. Fisting session  ($300)
3. Scat session ($450)
(Edging refers to the act of staying at the edge of orgasm as long as possible, while scat refers to acts involving feces. Fisting pretty much explains itself)

Most of my clients were quite normal though, asking for things like licking/sucking/sniffing various body parts and/or items of clothing. I remember I  had one client who was rather sad though. He was HIV+, and he was alone (family kicked him out, couldn’t get a date, constantly traveling). All he wanted was some cuddle time. It was really heartbreaking. I told him I didn’t want any payment and just spent the day with him. Sometimes I wonder what happened to him.

2015 was a turning point for me though. I had a client for a simple S&M session, and we really hit it off! So much so I went semi-steady with him, sort of like a Dom-Sub relationship. He was honestly the best thing that had happened to me. He gave me a safe space to work out my issues, and he’s mostly responsible for stabilising my mental health. I was on a downward spiral at that point and he pretty much saved me.

Unfortunately our relationship only lasted a year or so before he had to leave the country, because he was an expat and was posted to a different country. We had an all day farewell “party”

After he left, I had one last hookup with a guy somewhere in July 2016, and I’ve haven’t had any sort of sex with a guy since then.

I don’t regret my experiences, though I do wish I had known more about sexual health and safety, it’s a miracle I didn’t catch a STI. It’s generally made me a better person, both in life and in the bedroom

I wouldn’t really offer sexual services again though, because:
1. The market’s flooded with younger guys who offer the same thing I once did
2. After the hormonal surge stopped, I realised I was ace and wasn’t sexually attracted to people
3. I don’t need the money anymore, now that I’m working full time

If I had advice for anyone like me, it’ll be “always use a condom” and ” make sure someone’s watching out for you” cause safety is really important. I’m lucky, but it doesn’t mean you will be too. It’s best not to do things the way I did though. I was living life fast and loose, and it was dangerous, even for a tough person like me. Also learn a bit more about sex and sexual health, it’ll be helpful.

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